High Standards

I’ve received some pretty terrible advice before.

One of the worst has to be,

‘When it comes to people, keep your expectations low. That way you’ll never be disappointed.’

I believe that if you have to keep lowering expectations for people in your life then you have some pretty low-quality people.

And it's likely that the person who gave you that advice had realised that they do not meet your standards.

For instance, I expect that I will always recieve respect and maturity in each and every relationship. If an individual cannot meet this basic expectation, then they cannot meet my standards. Therefore, I remove them from my space in order to create space for those who do. It’s as simple as that.

From my experience, it’s draining and exhausting to keep reminding everyone to meet your expectations so it’s best to remain observant and proactive the whole time, not just when things get tough.

This perspective is not limited to romantic relationships, but friendships and family too.

Remember to self-reflect and discuss with the other person that they feel their needs are being met and improve in every way you can. Don’t forget that this theory is most definitely two-way, as are all relationships.

I have high standards for myself and high standards for everyone in my life and although it is quite a new and shocking concept, no one is entitled to me!

Although I didn’t realise it initially, expectations and standards really do go hand in hand. A more harmonious relationship is a more harmonious Earth.